"Mom" and Limiting Beliefs
© 2007 Tom Murasso

You're working hard on creating the life you desire. You have your Statement of Desire fine-tuned to include your ideals when it comes to all areas of your life, be it relationships, health, work, career and money.

You're noticing some success, lots of success, and definitely less of what you don't want because you're more deliberate in your thoughts and the vibrations you're sending out to the universe, however, some things aren't manifesting at all.

"What am I doing wrong?" you ask.

Right (positive) or wrong (negative), are words we use to describe how we feel about something. So, you're really not doing something wrong, in fact I would venture to say you're doing everything right and something is going wrong that you're not even aware of.

Think back to when you were growing up. Who would you say had the most influence on you? Mom? Dad? Was it you're grandparents, a teacher from school or the preacher from church? Maybe your brother or sister had a big influence on you.

Most people would say Mom is the number one influence and Dad was most likely second. But, whoever this major influence in your life was (is) would be a good starting place to figure out why some things are either not manifesting for you or coming very slowly.

First of all we're not going to blame your Mom and I'm going to use the word "Mom" to include whoever your major influence was, because Mom is our source of nurturing, teaching, guiding, the person we look up to and unfortunately, our first source of limiting beliefs.

Now Mom told you a lot of things about life and how to live it. Since (s)he was your authority figure, you believed just about everything (s)he told you. But, let's not forget "Mom" only told you things that (s)he was told by her/his "Mom."

Maybe you were told things like, "Money is evil and rich people are cheap and dishonest." Remember hearing things like, "You have to work hard to have anything, life is difficult and you must be prepared for disappointment because no one in our family ever amounted to anything."

Does this sound familiar? "Don't follow your pie-in-the-sky dreams, get a real job because life is a struggle and you need to have a good job and security."

All these little seeds have been planted in your subconscious mind and have matured into full-grown habitual and limiting beliefs.

I can't.
Because.
That's silly.
I've tried before.

Do you use these words? How do you feel when you say them?

You know, Henry Ford said, "If you think you can or you think you can't, you're right."

These limiting beliefs are similar to computer programs running in our subconscious minds ready and waiting to sabotage the manifesting of our desires and wishes.

You always get what you wish for. When you state your wish, "I'm in the process of attaining my ideal weight" (positive), and a little voice inside you is saying, "I can't lose weight because everyone in my family has trouble losing weight and keeping it off" (negative), you've just sent off conflicting vibrations and the Law of Attraction isn't going to manifest your desires.

Here are some more examples:

"I'd like to write a book, but I can't because I don't have a degree in English Literature."

"I want a loving relationship, but I can't because I'm too shy and have trouble talking to the opposite sex."

"I want to be wealthy, but I have to be dishonest and take advantage of people to become so."

Limiting beliefs send out negative vibrations. Limiting beliefs are one reason the "Allowing" step of the Law of Attraction 3 Step formula is difficult for most people. Limiting beliefs imply doubt, and doubt is removed by establishing proof. When you have proof, your beliefs change, and when you change your beliefs, your vibrations change from negative to positive, and everything fueling your Statement of Desire is in vibrational harmony and the Law of Attraction can do its job and bring what you desire.

One tool we can use to help change limiting beliefs and lessen or remove doubt are Belief Statements. Using this tool will help change your beliefs and more importantly, how you feel about your beliefs. You will feel less resistance, more relaxed, relieved, and because you will be removing doubt, you can truly believe you will attract what you desire.

As more and more of your desires are manifesting, make a journal and write in it daily the people, events and things that you are attracting to your life and refer to your journal often as further proof of your deliberate manifesting. As you have learned, having proof removes doubt. Your journal is a record of evidence.

It is essential to change your limiting negative beliefs to positive thoughts. Offering these new positive thoughts over and over will create a new belief system instead of the belief system Mom gave you.

"Mom, I forgive you. I know you love me and only taught me the beliefs your Mom told you but I'm a little stressed about the limiting beliefs we are programmed with by television, religion, books, magazines, celebrities, friends, governments, the medical profession..

"Should we explore that?"

Maybe some other time.

Tom Murasso (pronounced Mer-Ah-So) is an author, Law of Attraction trainer, and child of the universe. Visit his website for lots of free resources and more tools and techniques for taking the Law of Attraction to the next level.http://BornToManifest.com